It Ended BEFORE It Began
Some relationships end before they have a chance to see the light of day. What a sad reality. A fact of life. It’s nothing new. Yet it’s not talked about often.
You find more discussions around relationships that end after a long love story. At times, they end because of valid reasons, other times not so much. Rarely a mutual decision. In most cases, one party makes the decision to leave the relationship and the other party is being forced to accept that decision. Unless it was necessary to walk away due to abuse, dishonesty or infidelity.
What about those relationships that barely made it. Those ones that leave a big scar even though it was short lived. How does one process the ending of something that had just begun. How does one accept the lesson that needed to be learned when the reason is not even clear.
Everything has a reason. Right? Well, sometimes the reason is a mystery. Sadly, it’s not so much what the person is saying. It’s what they are not saying.
What do you call someone who escapes from love? How do you describe someone who freaks out at the possibility of actually finding happiness so they sabotage it? What can you say about someone who would rather lose a person they claim to care about than to actually make an effort? What do you call someone who gives up at the first sign of an obstacle and run?
A coward. Yup. There aren’t many descriptions here. This one makes the most sense.
A person who ends something that just started and runs away because they can’t handle what’s to come is a coward. And a liar too. Because they didn’t mean it when they claimed to love the other person. Instead, they hurt them, abandoned them and ran like a coward. Someone who understands love truly, would not walk away from something unless they had given it all they got, fought for it and can say “I tried my best.”
Sadly, there are many scenarios of the sort. Where people are running, escaping, hiding, taking the easy way out. Because they can’t deal. They are too weak. Too coward. Too selfish, indeed, because they are so wrapped up into their fears that they totally forgot there is someone else involved. Someone’s heart is on the line here. They are too busy trying to make themselves comfortable and the hell with the person emotionally involved with them.
No one is saying it’s easy for those who run and hide and end things before they begin. They suffer too. But their suffering is more self-inflicted. Their judgement is clouded. And frankly, these people should not be in any relationship until they heal from whatever traumas they are battling.
Now there is a dynamic that is rarely discussed. The relationship that gets destroyed before it had a chance to live. What’s left of it is broken dreams, empty promises, and a heart, deeply scarred. May you never have to live that kind of pain. And may the cowards do the right thing by not getting involved from the first place.
