The Secret Sauce - It shows on your face

Do you ever see an old lady and think “what a sweet old lady” or an older gentleman and say: “what a nice man!” Other times you see an older person or I should say an elderly individual and you don’t feel good vibes - instead you’re thinking: “why are they so grumpy? why are they so agitated? why they seem to be looking for some thing to complain or fight about?”

In my humble opinion I think I figured out the SECRET SAUCE. The secret to having this glow when we get older and what’s behind the dull look.

The way I see it,  if you’ve been a good person throughout your life, if you treat people with kindness and the purest of intentions. If the good deeds outweigh the not so good ones throughout your life, it will show on your face when you get older even with wrinkles and aging signs. No matter where life takes you, you will still be that person with a pure heart and now it’s showing on your face.

Likewise if you were someone who treated people badly, acted selfishly or simply not in the purest of ways, the outcome will reflect such life choices. In most cases anyway. Sometimes, with a little extra cash, you can buy people’s affection and time. Yet, at some point, that cash won’t do much for you.

Many find themselves all alone and miserable. No one cares to check on you in your old age. No one GENUINELY cares anyway. Again, you can buy services to support your living at that old age, but in the end, they still leave. You find yourself sitting alone, the hours are passing by ever so slowly, it almost feels like torture to be alive. Family? Where are they? Friends? Where are they? Your kids or grandkids (if you have any) - find every excuse in the book to why they can’t make it to visit. Holidays are spent alone. All you are left with is the memories of a life once lived. Attention you once had. All is gone now. Nothing left but the echo that surrounds you.

And if you aren’t alone, it is possible the people around you are simply tolerating your existence or perhaps treating you badly when you really need to be cared for. They probably had enough of your ill-treatment. They probably endured so much by this point that now, they are there out of pity.

This too shall show on your face. The unhappiness, the misery, the sadness and the loneliness. Regret, maybe, but not common. Most of the times, people when they age, if they were bitter and hateful for the majority of their life, it will be more of the same or worse during old age years. In the end we reap what we sow.

It will show on your face what kind of person you’ve been.

The evidence is by those around you. Do they want to help you or feel obligated or sorry for you? Are you being tossed around from one house to the next? Are you in a facility far away from anything and anyone? Barely anyone visiting? Are your needs being taken care of?

Our physical needs become our main priority as we deteriorate with aging. On top of that, we may have accumulated a few chronic illnesses and health issues that need regular monitoring. But what about our emotional needs? What about affection? What about feeling like our existence matters?

You see, someone who lived their whole life asserting power, demanding attention, seeking validation, was self-absorbed, hurt people with no remorse, abused others in any way, even with hurtful words only. All these types of actions, have a way of coming back full circle. Maybe not every single thing, but the day will come, and this person will get to feel pain, isolation and humiliation - perhaps worse than they ever dished out. Watch out from Karma. She doesn’t play.

The lesson to learn, before you hit that old age and find yourself alone and miserable, take a good look at your actions, how you’re treating people, how people are reacting to you, and if you need to make a change - perhaps now is the time to do it before it is too late.

It’s never too late to change yourself.

It’s never too late to self-reflect.

It’s never too late to choose kindness, compassion and genuine love.

It’s never too late to correct mistakes, restore relationships and make amends.

What do you want your face to show when you’re old and gray. How do you want your old-age years to look like? You are creating it right now. As young and vibrant as you maybe now, that day …. WILL come. There is no escaping it.

Choose wisely.